Weddings are events that require extensive thought and planning, and one of the most common dilemmas when it comes to weddings is how or how not to involve children. There are two sides of a wedding: the side of the hosts and the side of the guests, and either way, decisions and planning involving children are definitely in order. Whether you are a future bride or groom looking for ways to involve kids in your wedding, or you’re a future wedding guest worried about how your children will handle the night, read on to learn everything you need to know about how to manage children at a wedding.
If the Wedding is Yours
Make a Decision Early
If you’re currently planning a wedding, one of the decisions you’ll need to make early on is if you want to invite children. It all depends upon your personal vision for your big day- some people love the idea of a blissful night with no distractions, while others can’t imagine their wedding without the fun and unpredictability that children bring. Whatever your decision, make sure it is clear to your guests, so they can prepare for your wedding accordingly.
Practice and Plan
Once you’ve made the decision to invite children to your wedding, the planning begins. As with any facet of your big day, the more prepared you are, the better. You’ll want to think about where the kids will be seated during the reception (a kid’s table is a great way to keep them together and ensure that no one gets bored sitting at a table full of adults). Creating a menu just for the kids is also important because the youngest of the bunch will be much happier eating chicken fingers than a steak. For the children directly involved in your wedding (like the ring bearer and flower girl) make sure they are comfortable in the clothes they will be wearing, that they know what to do, and that they are as ready for your big day as you are.
Part of the planning for your wedding will involve determining how to keep the kids entertained once your reception begins. Some couples choose to book an entertainer to keep children occupied, and having a craft or game table is also an effective way to keep the kids busy while everyone else hits the dance floor. For the older kids, assigning them a task (like handing out favors) will keep them interested in the night and help them feel more involved in the festivities.
If the Wedding is Someone Else’s
Talk to Your Kids First
On the flip side of things, if you are a parent who has been invited to bring your kids along to a wedding, you can play a part in helping everything go smoothly. Talking to your kids before the wedding (especially to toddlers and young children) about what the night will entail is the best way to prepare them and ensure that they’ll be on their best behavior. You want to be able to enjoy yourself without worrying about your kids feeling confused or left out, so talking to them beforehand (as many times as you need to leading up to the wedding) is a positive step towards ensuring that everyone has a great time.
Even if the hosts of the wedding provide entertainment for your kids, you’re still going to want to bring some distractions of your own just in case. Depending on their ages, small toys, books, or handheld video games will all provide you with the chance to save the night if your kids start getting bored or too antsy. Bring your kids out on the dance floor when possible, and if need be, alternate “parenting mode” with your partner so that everyone in your group can have a memorable night.
Weddings at Brooklake Country Club
A wedding involves countless decisions, but Brooklake Country Club can help make your venue decision easier. Located in Florham Park, NJ, we will provide you with the perfect atmosphere and grounds to host the most memorable night of your life. We are dedicated to providing your guests with the feeling of an exclusive country club, and we pride ourselves on the fact that we are a “one event venue.” This means that we only host one wedding at a time, and you and your guests will receive our undivided attention in organizing and executing the best wedding possible. Contact us today to learn more about how we can make your wedding unforgettable!